Permission to Keep Secrets

We don't always have to 'tell all'...

Undeniably, when it comes to other people’s secrets, the proper etiquette is to keep them clandestine, but, what about our secrets with ourselves? How much do we really have to tell? Conversation and discussion are an important part of life and how we get to know and feel close to each other. Being overly secretive can come across as suspicious and distrustful, even when getting to know somebody new. On one hand we need a certain amount of vulnerability to build and maintain relationships within our lives, and often as the trust is earned, the vulnerability is increased. In short, the longer we invest in a relationship with someone, and they invest in us, the more we know about each other. On the other hand, on our initial acquaintance with people, we have no obligation to tell them everything so soon. So, we must be balanced in our approach.  

The secrets we keep about our own lives don’t have to be huge, reputation crushing details- actually, I would hope for your sake that they aren’t- instead, they can be anything we feel the need to protect from prying eyes and judgmental stares. We should give ourselves permission to keep our own secrets and prioritise our own privacy, because once it is out there, it is very difficult to take back. As I have mentioned before, we all have a remote and private inner world which is where our secrets can reside. Some could be shared with the people we trust, and others may be just for us. Some may be temporary secrets that last only until they need no longer be a secret. It is up to us to determine when to talk and what to say. There are no enforced rules that I want to convey to you, because those are your choice. How you choose to live is your choice. I only want to remind you that you do have a choice.

When it comes to the topic of manifestation, I often see people asking the same sort of question:

“How can I assume I already am something or already have something when there is not yet any evidence of it in the three dimensional world, without coming across as delusional?

Truthfully, there is no pressure to tell anyone your desires or what it is you are manifesting. If you don’t talk about it, no-one will think you are delusional, because no-one can know what it is that you are choosing to believe inside your own head. In fact, many mental science and manifestation writers often recommend not to talk about what you are trying to call into your world, mostly because then you can protect your visions or affirmations from the cynics and the naysayers. Often, when we talk about our hopes, dreams, and desires, we can get shot down in flames, and that usually only makes us feel deflated, or even defeated. Whereas, a huge part of successful manifestation is to be able to persist in the assumption that what we want is already here, and it is much easier to do this if we can block out, or prevent any hostile opinions from entering the perfect image that we are creating.

Therefore, if you have found that telling certain people in your life about what it is you want to manifest doesn’t get you the positive and affirmative response you crave, remind yourself of this: you do not have to convince anyone else to believe in you, instead, it is you who you must convince to believe in yourself.

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